At first I thought it was a joke....
What is wrong with people these days? When I find out that someone is about to get married I tend to think of happy thoughts and in general wish them well. I picture them years from now and how theirs lives will change so much dramatically and of all the things they look forward too. Buying a house, having the standard 2.3 kids, being able to do things as a family and stuff like that. Isn't this a normal way for somebody to think in today's society?
Ever since I started telling people about me being engaged there has always been these certain phrases that would occasionally pop up. "Don't do it man!! hahaha" or "It's not too late to back out of it now!! hahaha". Well it seems that the more people I get introduced to now that I've moved to be with my fiance, the more often I get this type of response. It even started back home and even at the border crossing in Washington. It seems everybody wants to line up and give us their version of the "It's never too late to back out" line. Has the concept of marriage actually diminished that much over the years that we are better off living alone and bitter for the rest of our lives?
Whatever happened to the well wishers and strangers who congratulated people upon hearing such news? I feel that at times people are actually wanting us to marry and have it fail just so they can say "I told you so!". Isn't there enough pressure on the couple already without having so many people advising them to not go through with their dreams? Sure I can understand that people would be looking out for the best interest of both parties but if you over do it, then you are just creating an environment of self doubt and second thoughts.
Engaged couples both young and old need positive feedback that everything will be alright. They don't need to hear all the nay-sayers fill their minds with bad experiences because they see it everyday. Seriously, how far do you have to go to hear a sob story of a failed marriage? How far do you have to go to hear the statistics of broken marriages? It's thrown in our faces everyday and it's almost like you have to pretend to be a maverick to even THINK about getting married. It shouldn't be that way, we should embrace the idea of two people committing to each other for the rest of their lives and give them all the encouragement they need and deserve.
I admit that I am a wise-ass practical joker and can give and take and jab with the best of them. At first I WAS taking everything people were saying with an open mind and a grain of salt but it just seems we're getting more words of doom than words of wisdom, respect, or advice. Like the saying goes.... if you tell someone everyday how stupid they are, sooner or later they will start to believe you.
Through all these negative comments I still find myself very much wanting to get married. I guess I'm lucky that what my ears are hearing is no match for what my heart is feeling.
I smile as I look into the future. I hope that one day 30 years from now my wife and I can throw a big ass party and invite all the people that are in our lives today. I guarantee you that I will have a very large cake that has the following message inscribed on the icing:
"We told you so!"
Ever since I started telling people about me being engaged there has always been these certain phrases that would occasionally pop up. "Don't do it man!! hahaha" or "It's not too late to back out of it now!! hahaha". Well it seems that the more people I get introduced to now that I've moved to be with my fiance, the more often I get this type of response. It even started back home and even at the border crossing in Washington. It seems everybody wants to line up and give us their version of the "It's never too late to back out" line. Has the concept of marriage actually diminished that much over the years that we are better off living alone and bitter for the rest of our lives?
Whatever happened to the well wishers and strangers who congratulated people upon hearing such news? I feel that at times people are actually wanting us to marry and have it fail just so they can say "I told you so!". Isn't there enough pressure on the couple already without having so many people advising them to not go through with their dreams? Sure I can understand that people would be looking out for the best interest of both parties but if you over do it, then you are just creating an environment of self doubt and second thoughts.
Engaged couples both young and old need positive feedback that everything will be alright. They don't need to hear all the nay-sayers fill their minds with bad experiences because they see it everyday. Seriously, how far do you have to go to hear a sob story of a failed marriage? How far do you have to go to hear the statistics of broken marriages? It's thrown in our faces everyday and it's almost like you have to pretend to be a maverick to even THINK about getting married. It shouldn't be that way, we should embrace the idea of two people committing to each other for the rest of their lives and give them all the encouragement they need and deserve.
I admit that I am a wise-ass practical joker and can give and take and jab with the best of them. At first I WAS taking everything people were saying with an open mind and a grain of salt but it just seems we're getting more words of doom than words of wisdom, respect, or advice. Like the saying goes.... if you tell someone everyday how stupid they are, sooner or later they will start to believe you.
Through all these negative comments I still find myself very much wanting to get married. I guess I'm lucky that what my ears are hearing is no match for what my heart is feeling.
I smile as I look into the future. I hope that one day 30 years from now my wife and I can throw a big ass party and invite all the people that are in our lives today. I guarantee you that I will have a very large cake that has the following message inscribed on the icing:
"We told you so!"
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